Make the First Kiss Not Kill

I've been going out with this woman since last week.

We've been texting non-stop-all subliminal, hot, sexy texts.

We had a great dinner last night. We talked, we related, we had that magic chemistry.

Afterward, we walked to the car. Then we had that awkward moment. You know, that awkward moment at the car? The moment at the car when you both look at each other and you kind of dance a little bit back and forth, you've got eye contact, she's smiling, and you're wondering what the hell is going on in here, what do we do next?

It's the classically awkward "Should I Kiss Her?" moment.

Is it time to go in for the kiss? Yes. Do I want to kiss her? Yes. Does she look like she wants to kiss me? Absolutely.

But that first kiss is always so awkward. It's so uncomfortable. I've never liked it, never really enjoyed that first kiss. I never thought, "Wow, it's time for the first kiss. Yay!"

I really like to just get it out of the way. I'm thinking that you should kiss when you first meet. That way you can find out quickly if you have a compatible kissing style.

But I digress...

So I looked at my date and I gave her a little soft kiss on the lips. Usually, I'm very content with that. That first kiss. That little kiss. A little tease. Make them wonder a little bit, make them think. Make them desire, make them feel, make them want, and make them anticipate the next kiss.

So I did that and I pulled back. We talked a little bit more and it still felt like I really wanted to kiss her. So I went in, gave her another hug and then just a mouth smack.

My tongue went in.

Her tongue responded, and I'm thinking, "Ah here we go. I'm going to feel this beautiful woman's mouth, her tongue, her passion..."

And then she starts cracking up, right when our tongues starting touching. And she started laughing and she couldn't stop laughing for a minute.

I looked at her and I said, "I'm glad that my kiss made you laugh."

I've never had a reaction like that before. I never had anybody laugh at my kiss. But she couldn't stop laughing.

We talked about it afterward. I said 'we almost did it-we almost kissed.' She said 'we almost did.' I told her that we can save it for the next time. She said 'okay.' And I let her leave.

When I got home, we texted. She told me that she almost forgot how great it is to laugh with a lover. And I thought to myself that her laughter and that statement were far better than the kiss.

We make such a big deal of the first kiss. We really do. But in reality, just joke around, have fun, laugh, loosen up, and there will be plenty of time to kiss.

Make it simple. A hug, a little peck, and a lot of laughter, and she'll anticipate what's going to happen next.

Dating Out Of Your League - What About Competition From Other Guys?

I think that most guys imagine what it would be like to date a woman who was out of their league. You think about women with supermodel good looks and you imagine that you would have to deal with lots of competition from other guys, because you know that other guys would definitely be checking her out. While it is true that when you date a really good looking woman, you are going to have to deal with the reality that other men are going to be scoping her out, does that really even matter?

The idea that you really have to worry about other guys is one that I can relate to, and I think most men can. The thing that I have learned from experience is, it does not matter nearly as much as you think it would. In your mind, you probably feel like if you were to try to date a beautiful woman, you would always have to be on your guard because there would be plenty of men who would be willing to take your place. I don't doubt that is true, it's just that you don't really have to be that stressed out about it.

Be the Best You -

All you have to do is be the best you that you can be. I know, that sounds like some elementary school lesson, but when it comes to dating attractive women if you are just being uniquely you and that is what the woman likes, then there is no reason to think that another guy can just come along, flirt with her a bit, and she would go running off with him. Most of the fear of having to deal with competing with other men comes from insecurity, and you can make most of that go away when you realize that you do deserve to be with a beautiful woman and if you are the kind of guy that the woman you are dating likes - then she is going to want to stay with you.

A Warning -

If you do end up in a relationship with a very good looking woman, then you have to know that one of the things that could end up ruining that is when you allow your insecurity to get the best of you. It can make you become jealous for no reason, it can make her feel like she really does not want to be with you anymore, etc. What you have to do is to get control of that insecure feeling and if you do, then there won't be much reason at all to worry about another man coming along.

5 Major Dating Profile Mistakes That Women Make

You are probably getting tired of sifting through all of the "your hot" emails and using your sword of womanly righteousness to keep the creepers and perverts at bay. Oh yes, and I spelled "you're" incorrectly on purpose, because we both know that a lot of those drooling, sex crazed maniacs won't even take the time to construct a coherent sentence, right?

And I bet that you are wondering, to quote Paula Cole, "Where have all the cowboys gone?"! Are the good guys even on this site? you might wonder this! chances are with all of the millions of page views that the average dating site gets a month that indeed your knight in shining armor is right around the corner, but could it be that he already checked out your dating profile and was turned away?

If so, what caused him to run? did you miss your big opportunity? You didn't miss your divine chance, because there are plenty of fish in the sea, but there are 5 huge mistakes that women make when setting up their dating profiles that cause the "keepers" to walk away and the "creepers" to drool even more!

An Online Dating Profile Is A Resume

If you were putting together a resume to be seen by a potential, new employer, you wouldn't be careless. Heck, you might even hire a professional to set it up for you, and what would this expert do differently? they would be stripping out the things that turn off a future boss and including the things that catch their eyes!

Well, the sad truth is that there are 5 major fallacies that almost all women make on their profiles that cause the bad guys to become even more sex-raged and the good ones to look down upon you, but let's change that, OK?

#1 Dating Profile Mistake - Don't Talk About Your Cat

Guys fear the crazy cat lady that was so brilliantly epitomized in The Simpsons for flinging her felines at the neighbor kids.
Men also can detect this strange feeling like they are going to be shelved and that a woman's cat is going to get more attention.

Look, it's cool if you love kitties (I do!), but don't mention or make them the major part of your dating profile, even if you are crazy about "fluffy". Truth is, it's a 50/50 whether a guy is a cat lover or a dog lover, so why turn away 50% of your potential, future husbands right away?

#2 Dating Profile Mistake - Too Many Demands

Boy, this one is big! 90% of the profiles that I see look like a catalog. He should be tall, handsome, successful, respectful, love his family, good to me, won't want sex all the time, rub my feet, save babies from burning buildings, make 200k a year, drive a Mercedes, you get the point.

Ask yourself this. When have you ever looked at a guy's profile that outlined so many stipulations and thought "wow! this is the one!"?

When a guy sees a girl being this demanding before even connecting with men, he will run for the hills. Why? because he's imagining what life would be like with this girl, and the story ain't pretty.

No man wants to feel like he's going to be trapped, always lose, whipped, expected to do impossible things and fulfill incredibly unrealistic expectations. By the way, that's called "conditional" love, and we all know that doesn't work.

#3 Dating Profile Mistake - Fish Lips & Other Blunders

Whether you are 19 or 48, guys really despise the cutesy fish lips. They also don't like the overhead, "taken in my bathroom" angles.

The keepers are seriously turned off by overly planned photos, but the creeps love them! When a guy sees your dating profile photo looking extremely manufactured (obvious pose, too much makeup, trying to look too cool) it's a big no-no. It registers as compensating for a lack of confidence, but the perverts get more and more turned on by this.

Remember, guys really do like confident women. But ironically a photo of you trying too hard is going to tell him that you are just the opposite.

No Children In Photos

If you have kids and are a single mom in the dating world, no matter how young or old, there is nothing wrong with getting out there! congrats! but don't include photos of you with your children.

A guy has to look at your photo and see himself in the picture. "Could I be with this girl? I like her smile and that carefree spirit that comes across". But it makes it really difficult for a man to process this when he's distracted with a kid in the pic.

He has to see the two of you as a couple first. Plus, remember - it's a dating site! it's supposed to be joyous, not heavy. What if you are a really laid back woman who has a 4 year old and you would make a great companion?

It would be a shame to sell yourself short without getting to meet him. Because a man will look at the photo and think "financial responsibility", "jump in and settle down from day one", "am I ready for this?" and he'll just click away.

Don't overwhelm your future mate with too many of your details yet. Let him get to know you and be able to grasp who you are in a nice, even pattern. Point is, the photo sets so much of the tone of what could be a relationship!

#4 Dating Profile Mistake - Cynicism & Man Bashing

Look, we've all been burned by the opposite sex, but what are you trying to accomplish with your dating profile? to meet a great guy who could be the best thing that ever happened to you, or to organize a man-hater's club?

Although you might still be nursing the wounds from "Ted who ran off with your Playstation", when you reflect resentment and regret in your dating profile it makes you look like you aren't strong.

It can comes across that you can't recover and especially that you will be extremely
guarded, and no one wants to date someone who is "damaged". This also can reveal how you might handle future obstacles to a guy's instinct. Will you be the kind of girl who can prevail, has a strong heart and can go through the ups and downs of a relationship, or are you going to bail when you find his toenail clippings on the bathroom floor?

Subconsciously, this does resonate within a man's intuition. So be mindful, which brings me to the most important part that will make the other mistakes completely avoidable.

#5 Dating Profile Mistake - Not Being Positive, Not Being Yourself

Remember, when you are writing a dating profile, you are selling yourself. Whatever you choose to sell is up to you, but there are good and bad consequences.

Be upbeat! be who you are and keep your profile exciting! Even if your life is pretty mundane and routine to you, that doesn't matter. Make your profile say "who wouldn't want to date me? - I'm a blast!". Just don't be arrogant, ever.

Bonus Tip: Have someone else that you know personally look over your profile. It's hard to see what comes across when it's about us and we are putting together a bit of a story that describes ourselves.

A friend or family member will be able to see where you are selling yourself short, what comes across as weird or negative, and they will be able to express that "weird vibe" that they get from this photo or that little bit of description.

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3 Fun Things to Do on a First Date

A first date is your opportunity to make a great impression. You may have spent days, weeks, or even months building up to this moment, so you probably have a lot riding on the outcome. The date might only last for a few hours, but if you both get along well, hopefully there will be the opportunity for a second date, which is, after all, the whole point of the exercise! So, to ensure a date has a great time in your company, and is impressed enough to consider seeing you again-do it differently and plan some fun things to do on a first date.

The best way to make a good impression on a first date is to step outside of the square. Most people are lacking in imagination when it comes to dating and their suggestion for a first date is usually a drink at a bar or a meal out. These types of date are perfectly acceptable, but it can be fun to try something different, plus you are far more likely to make a positive impression if a date thinks you have gone the extra mile to impress them.

3 fun things to do on a first date

1. Take a date to a theme park - research has shown that when people are placed in a "dangerous" situation, they are much more likely to develop an attraction for their companion, which explains why prisoners can fall in love with their captors. Obviously a prisoner-captor role play scenario is best saved for a long while in the future, but spending a date at a theme park and enjoying some of the white knuckle rides is a great way to ensure your date has plenty of opportunities to get up close and personal while screaming in your ear.


2. Pack a romantic picnic - nothing beats a picnic on a hot summer's day and this is the perfect date for anyone who enjoys spending time in the Great Outdoors. You can spend as much or as little cash as you like, although you are advised to pack more than a few cocktail sausages and a cheese sandwich. Anyone with some spare cash can easily impress a date with some cold cuts, a baguette, a nice bottle of wine, and some strawberries and cream. And as long as you choose a scenic location away from hostile wildlife and irate farmers, you are assured of a successful first date.


3. A walk on the beach - assuming you live somewhere near the coast, a walk on the beach is many people's idea of a perfect (and very romantic) first date. When the weather is warm, you can ditch the shoes and socks and paddle in the sea, and if the weather is cold, wrap up warm and stroll down the windswept beach pretending to be characters from a romantic novel. End the date with an ice cream or hot chocolate (depending on the weather), and your date will be dazzled by your romantic nature.

These are just three ideas for fun things to do on a first date-there are dozens more I could suggest if you are bored with the "drinks in a bar date" or "coffee shop date". And if you have been on hundreds of dates already, I wouldn't blame you for being fed up of the more obvious ways to spend a first date!

Dating Challenges For Women, Here's How To Attract And Keep A Man

The most common misconception for attracting a man is that men are only interested in thin, beautiful women. Therefore, women who are less than magazine cover beautiful feel they have less chance for Love and Long Lasting Relationships. The reality is, physical beauty is not the most important thing men look for in a life partner and you could be closing the door before it even gets a chance to open. You could be sending the wrong signals without even knowing it, rendering yourself unapproachable by men, simply because you do not understand what men REALLY look for in a woman.

One of the first mistakes women make when attempting to meet someone to date is traveling in a group. Men do not feel comfortable approaching a whole group of women as it makes them feel they will have to meet the approval of all the women in the group. This is very intimidating when wanting to approach only one. It is also very difficult to strike up and have a conversation with everyone at the table watching. So, if you are going out for an evening with the girls, that's fine and a ton of fun. But, if you are going out with the intention of trying to meet someone, you will be better off if you only pick one or two friends to go out with for the evening.

Are you sending out the wrong signals? You could be. If you are experiencing low self-esteem, or a lack of self-confidence, it shows. You could be feeling frustration at the lack of success you are having in the dating scene and are feeling it's never going to happen for you. If that is the case, maybe the expression on your face or your body language, such as having your arms crossed, is giving men the impression that you do not want to be approached and they will never get past that wall. You may not even realize those are the signals you are sending, but those are the signals they are seeing. Don't be afraid to make eye contact and smile! Let them see the approachable you.

Men want a woman who is beautiful on the inside. They are looking for someone who is open, warm, caring, and independent. They want to see your sense of humor, the compassionate, and the passionate side of you. Men want a woman they can open up to and be able to express their own thoughts and feelings. That is the woman they think is beautiful. That is the total package. That is who men pick to be their life partner.

How to Know If Your First Date Is a Match - 3 Things to Look For

Your first date should match the profile you requested, but some singles don't tell the truth on their profile. The only way to know if your first date is a match is when you meet him personally. Most singles talk and act different in person than they do on the phone.

Some dating sites don't take the time to screen the applicant or run a background check which weeds out the losers. Make sure you ask them if they do these two things.

They need to meet you personally so they can talk to you matching you up with a compatible person. This doesn't always work either, so the best way to know if your first date is a match is when you are face to face with him. There are 3 things to look for.

1 - While you're holding a conversation with him - If he doesn't appear interested in what you're saying or looking in the other direction while you're talking, then that is a sure sign he is not a match for you. He isn't showing you any consideration and wants this date to be his way or no-way.

He is looking for something different than what you are. You are probably looking for a serious relationship and maybe he is looking for a fun-time with no strings attached.

2 - If he tries to get to close - He might be interested in one thing and try to hit on you pushing you to leave the restaurant and enticing you to a motel. If he does that, turn him down. He is still a stranger to you and you don't know what he might try to do.

Don't let him pull you away. Stay in control and don't let him manipulate you. When you have stood your ground and he leaves without you anyway, then the date is all over and it's time to move on.

3 - Common Ground - If you find that neither of you have nothing in common, that's a sign he's not a match. You must have at least one thing in common to pursue a relationship. Even if it's just pets, that's a great interest. If he won't talk about his hobbies, interests or pets, than the conversation is over.

The best way to find out is to dig a little and ask him questions of interest. Before you go on your date, write down everything you can think of to ask him. You may have forgotten something that is of interest to both of you. It takes some common interest for a relationship to work.

These are the 3 things to look for to know if your first date is a match. Keep in mind that there are more fish in the sea if he is not a match. Don't let it get you down just because the date didn't work out this time. You just haven't found your dream date. Keep dating and you'll find him.

iWebcam To Find Online Relationships - Can They Really Work Out?

Often people will log onto the internet and start dive bombing the big name websites that offer professional match making services. Others are clueless and do random online searches and end up on all kind of fly by night dating sites, spending countless hours browsing fake or embellished profiles.

If this has been you in the past, please don't give up! There's still hope for you yet! In my honest opinion, you can't really get to know someone by reading a profile or browsing through their uploaded photo gallery. The fact of the matter is, the only thing you're learning about a person is by the information they've specifically provided for you to obtain. I have often found that websites that operate in this manner usually just lead to future disappointment. The people aren't really who they say they are, and that is honestly one of the biggest problems I found on those kind of websites. They are who you want them to be.

Instead of taking the before mentioned path and falling into the fray that is online dating, perhaps it's time to take a different approach. Have you ever tried video chatting with someone on your webcam? Do you know how to video chat? Chatting online with others on webcam is the perfect way to actually get to know someone. Not to mention there is virtually no risk and you don't even have to leave your home, although it would be a good idea to look your best. I have had a lot of success with very little disappointment from frequenting iWebcam chat sites. People are generally themselves when you're chatting face to face through video with them.

You'll have ample opportunity to "put them on the spot" and ask a barrage of questions that's pretty much unavoidable without having to compromise your safety. Of course you may stumble across adult oriented chat rooms or other types of chat that you aren't necessarily interested in if you aren't careful. I have certainly tried my share of dating websites and have made countless profiles, only to find that I have wasted my time and will be starting from ground zero once again.

To reiterate, you will most likely have much more success trying a video dating or video chat site opposed to one's that require you to enter multiple search queries at the off chance you'll find "true love".

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