Most singles are looking for a relationship but there are a few who just want a fling. A relationship is someone who cares about you and wants you to be a part of their life, while a fling is someone looking for a good time or a one night stand.
They are ready to move on to the next date after they've had their fun with you. When you are putting your profile together for the dating site, make sure you specify relationship material. That doesn't always work, but it helps weed out the one nighters.
Always meet your first date at a well-lit place preferably inside a restaurant or coffee shop and keep your first date short. Don't let him talk you into going to his apartment or motel. Make up an excuse or go the bathroom and leave without him knowing it.
It is dangerous leaving with a complete stranger that's trying to push you into doing something against your will. This type of date is a fling. The type you are looking for is interested in you, your hobbies, pets and kids if you have any, and will show you respect.
He will call you again for another date and it will lead to more dates and then he will want you to become a part of his life. He will call you to see how you're doing and will want you to meet his friends and family. That means he definitely wants a serious relationship with you.
You never hear from the one-nighters after the first date, especially if they couldn't get to first base with you. If someone like that persists and keeps calling harassing you, then you need to go to the authorities. Never give your physical address to anyone until you've known them awhile.
When you meet someone like that, you have to take control and put a stop to their actions. Sometimes it's tough trying to control a date that just wants a fling, but it's for your safety. Always have your car keys and cell phone handy.
If you need to make a quick exit, you'll be ready to get away from this guy. If you have to dig in the bottom of your purse, you'll never get away and then you'll feel trapped. If you were matched with a one-nighter, call the dating service and complain. Most single guys you date are respectful and act like a gentleman, but there are a few wild ones. You will know before the night is over, if your date is looking for a relationship or fling.
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