If you have been through a divorce or a recent relationship break-up, or you have been single for sometime, you might find that your dating skills are a bit rusty and in need of an up-date.
When you're single, it's very easy to become despondent and believe that that you will never meet anyone special. However, wherever you live and whatever age-group you're in, you can be sure that there are plenty of other people in a similar position to you, many of whom would just love to meet you.
Here are 7 surefire strategies which will boost your dating life and help you find love fast:
1. Make A Plan
Schedule dating into your life. Just as you would schedule business appointments into your diary, schedule a couple of events every week to go out and socialise, mix and meet new people. Don't just leave things to chance. Your ideal partner is unlikely to just fall into your lap, so be pro-active. Plan your social diary weeks in advance. But don't just leave it at that. Keep your eyes open for everyday opportunities to connect with interesting, new people whether it be on your way to work, to buy lunch or to go shopping. You'll soon notice that potential boyfriend and girlfriend material is everywhere!
2. Decide What You Want - Then Ignore It
Write down on a piece of paper exactly the criteria you are searching for in a partner. Include appearance, age, employment situation plus personal qualities and values. If you have a clear idea of what you want, you are more likely to notice it when you see it.
However, once you've done this, file it away and ignore it! Subconsciously you will notice people who fit your criteria, but then also give other people a chance. You might just surprise yourself and find your ideal partner dressed-up in a different 'package'.
3. Work Out Your Deal-Breakers
Also spend time writing down exactly what you don't want in a partner - those qualities that you will just not put-up with. You might want to steer clear of anyone who has a history of physical abuse, addiction, money problems or a criminal background etc. File this list away and when you eventually get into a relationship, check-off your new partner against this list in the cold light of day. This will prevent you getting carried away by the passion of the moment and making concessions which will inevitably lead to disaster.
4. Love Yourself First
Before you start-out looking for someone else, have an affair with yourself! Treat, appreciate and show affection to yourself as you would to a prospective new partner. Notice whenever your internal chatter tries to criticize, berate or insult you and tell it firmly to stop. You set the standard by which other people will treat you, so if you are bad to yourself, you will subconsciously train other people to treat you the same way. If necessary, seek professional expertise to help you boost your self-esteem.
5. Do Some 'Home-Staging'
Just as you would repair and spruce-up your home if you were going to sell it, do the same for yourself. Ask a trusted friend what you can do to improve your appearance, attitude and general attractiveness to potential suitors and make a concerted effort to make some practical improvements. The better your improvements, the more suitors you will attract.
6. Become Someone Worth Meeting
Just as you want to meet someone special and interesting, so do your potential partners. Start doing more of the things you enjoy. By pursuing your passion in photography, rock-climbing or salsa dancing etc., you will not only make yourself happier, but you will also become a lot more interesting and attractive. You might even find someone who shares your passion and so have a solid basis for your relationship.
7. Muster Your Resources
Now that you are ready to pro-actively start looking for that special someone, enlist the help of your trusted friends, family and colleagues and ask for their support to help you find your future partner. You never know who they might know or who they could introduce you to.
Also find a couple of other single friends to go out and socialise with. Not only will they strengthen your resolve and provide you with strong morale support, but they will also help you relax and have more fun, thus showing you off at your most attractive.
With some clever dating strategies like these, it will not be long before you are dating someone special again.
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